Contentment
is
When we are contented,
we are in a stable state where there are relatively few emotions to
drive us into any particular other action.
Contentment is
often the result of the resolution of tension where, having resolved a difficulty or
achieved a goal, we have a feeling of satisfaction.
The problem with
contentment is that we tend not to stay there for long. Other emotions arise,
from curiosity to fear,
which then trigger us into further action.
Getting to contentment
To get to contentment
means releasing all tensions which stop us from being contented. This
means achieving all goals and needs and not setting up other goals.
There are many
esoteric techniques which are used to get to contentment, from meditation to
Tai Chi. The general approach they use is quieting and focusing of the mind on something.
Sometimes mantras that repeat a sentence in the mind are used to distract and silence the
subconscious and the inner voice that nags us into actions.
So what?
To motivate other
people, it can be useful to help them resolve other tensions first. If you can
get them into a contented state then you have a 'clean slate' from which to start and where they
are less likely to be distracted by other things. Helping them to contentment also builds trust.
See also
Lazarus, R. and
Lazarus, B. (1994), Passion and Reason, Oxford University Press, New
York
